027: How to Tame the Tiger (Parent) in You | Tanith Carey

Take your foot off the gas and reclaim a more relaxed family life


In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday, we’ll be finding out how to put your child’s well-being first in a competitive world. By doing so, you’ll get permission to take your foot off the gas and reclaim a more relaxed family life.

My guest today is SuperMum, Tanith Carey.

Tanith is an award-winning journalist and writes for many of the major UK broadsheets. She’s a best-selling parenting author of seven books, and has appeared on the major UK morning shows as a parenting expert. Tanith and her husband live in London with their two daughters who are 11 and 14.

Today we’ll be taking to Tanith about her critically-acclaimed book called ‘Taming the Tiger Parent: How to Put Your Child’s Well-Being First in a Competitive World’.

From the moment the umbilical cord is cut, today’s parents often feel trapped in a never-ending race to ensure their child is the brightest and the best. Mozart in the womb, Baby Einstein DVDs for newborns, and learning apps for toddlers is just the beginning. And while it’s completely natural for us to want our kids to reach their potential, at what point does too much competition become damaging not only to our children, but to us as mums?

In this episode, we’ll explore the effects that competitive parenting has on us as women, how the extra work load of out-of-school activities is affecting us, and the impact it’s having on our relationships with our partner, our children and our family life.

Tanith will help us examine more closely the choices we make for our children’s free time, and look at it from a bigger picture perspective. She helps us question whether, in trying to do the absolute best by our children, we might actually be creating unnecessary problems for ourselves and them.

I’m overjoyed to have Tanith with me on the podcast today, because she can teach us so much about how to tame our inner tiger parent which will free up more time for the things that really matter.

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • What a Tiger Parent is and why we need to tame it
  • How we got to the point where we feel the need to take our children to so many extra-curricular activities
  • Whether we’re failing our children by not giving them every possible opportunity in life.
  • How we’re affected by the increased work load that of out-of-school clubs and classes brings
  • The impact competitive parenting has on our relationships with our partner and children
  • Practical guidelines and realistic solutions to help us take our foot off the gas and reclaim a more relaxed family life



 Hope you enjoy todays show!


Please leave a comment:

If you have a question or want some advice from a top broadsheet journalist and author, ask away.

And let us know in the comments. Do you feel like you’re doing to much with your kids or have you got the balance right? Have the things that Tanith’s talked about given you the freedom to take your foot off the gas?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:


TANITH ON FACEBOOK: What Parents Need Now

TANITH’S BOOK (that we talked about today): Taming the Tiger Parent: How to put your child’s well-being first in a competitive world


ARTICLE: What are the secrets of the world’s happiest children?

PROFILE: Alfie Kohn

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: The Road Less Travelled by M. Scott Peck

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua

PROFILE:  David Nicholls

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Lisa York

Lisa believes a happy mum brings up happy kids who become happy adults. With four children aged 7, 6, 4 and 2, being kind to herself is an ongoing challenge. But she’s trying.

Lisa lives with her family in Canberra, Australia.

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3 replies
  1. Lisa York | SuperMum
    Lisa York | SuperMum says:

    Thank you too, Melissa and Debby. I really appreciate how you handled such a difficult topic in a practical yet sensitive way. I know from the feedback, that our mum listeners have found it to be very useful, Lisa x

  2. Melissa and Debby
    Melissa and Debby says:

    Lisa, we wanted to thank you for having us on your Podcast – it was truly an enjoyable experience. We so appreciated your insightful questions that enabled us to share more about how to heal after a difficult or traumatic birth. And thank you for caring so much about mums – it really shows in your podcasts, and we feel very grateful to have this opportunity to reach more women and share the message that birth trauma is real…AND that it is possible to heal. Much love, Melissa and Debby xx

  3. Lisa York
    Lisa York says:

    I hope you enjoyed this very open and honest episode with Melissa and Debby. Did you feel supported and listened to while giving birth? Let me know in the comments! Lisa x

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