020: Throw Away the Mummy Guilt
Behind every great kid is a mum who’s pretty sure she’s mucking it up
Ask your child to tell you about mother’s guilt and they’ll look at you blankly.
“There will be so many times when you feel like you’ve failed, but in the eyes, heart and mind of your child, you are a supermum”
I love this quote by Stephanie Precourt.
Guilt is an emotion that we mums load on to ourselves because we never feel as if we quite live up to the mark.
But if we’re putting guilt on to ourselves, then we have the power to take it away from ourselves.
Bottom line, your child loves you right up to the moon.
And you love them right up to the moon …. and back.
You’re doing a great job. Now you just need to believe it.
In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about the dreaded mummy guilt and how we can attack it head on.
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This weeks challenge:
So my challenge for this week is to think about something that makes you feel guilty and really start to work out a way to use that guilt to your advantage.
Step 1: What do you feel guilty about? If there’s lots of things, just focus on one at a time
Step 2: Can you either willingly drop the ball with it, or motivate yourself to make a change. That might be a physical change where you do something differently, or a mental change where you reframe how you see the situation.
Remind yourself that there is a solution to absoultely everything and they’ll be a solution here, so don’t give up on yourself.
Listen to today’s show for all the details.
Please leave a comment:
Then tell me in the comments. What makes you feel guilty, and how can you look at that guilt in a different way?
Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you in any way we can.
Hope you enjoy the show.
Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!
Lisa York x
Show Notes:
BOOK: Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids by Julie Bort, Aviva Pflock and Devra Renner
SURVEY: Overcoming ‘Mommy Guilt’ by the American Management Association “In a survey of over 1,300 parents – a whopping 96% … reported feeling guilty about some aspect of parenting.”
PROFILE: Dr Robin Smith
BOOK: Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life by Glennon Doyle Melton
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Lisa York
Lisa believes a happy mum brings up happy kids who become happy adults. With four children aged 7, 6, 4 and 2, being kind to herself is an ongoing challenge. But she’s trying.
Lisa lives with her family in Canberra, Australia.
A person could only feel more excited about life after hearing your intro and boppy music in this Lisa.
I love the music too. I often catch myself singing it!
Lisa, Michelle
My guilt is always when I shout with frustration. I liked your angle on how this is because I want them to be better. I always apologise and explain why I was cross and I think over time my eldest certainly doesn’t push my buttons and changes her way and I get better by trying to stop the frustration.
Great insight.. Thank you
I’m glad our insights helped. Before kids, I thought I was a relatively patient person, but boy, those little scamps know how to press all my buttons! Sometimes I don’t recognise myself, but like you, I’m learning!
What makes you feel guilty? How can you look at that guilt in a different way?
And if, like me, you’re in the minority and don’t let guilt get the better of you, please share your secrets with us.