065: Marriage; Should I Stay or Should I go? | Holly Christie

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday we’ll be discussing the huge decision of stepping away from a broken marriage and becoming a solo parent.

057: The Mummy Professor: Gaining Knowledge and ‘Winging It’ | Alexis ‘Lekki’ Frazier-Wood

No study is perfect

[Lekki Frazier-Wood]

It will comfort you to know, that having a PhD in Child Development doesn’t necessarily mean you feel like an expert when it comes to raising your own children. The decisions and choices you make for your children are just as tough, with or without prior knowledge.

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday we’ll be discussing what it’s like for an English woman to raise children in America; how traditional roles can be turned on their heads; and how a career researching child development can influence parenting techniques. 

My guest today is SuperMum, Lekki Frazier-Wood.

Originally from London, Lekki started her career as a Social Scientist specialising in child development, and has spent 8 years living in Alabama and Texas. English-born Lekki now lives in Houston with her American husband Wes, 4 year old son and daughter of 15 months. She’s a Professor of Paediatrics, studying childhood nutrition at the Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, Texas. 

Before meeting her husband, it never crossed Lekki’s mind that she would marry an American or have children anywhere other than England. And having kids in a foreign land has challenged her thinking about the norms of the Southern ‘Bible Belt’ and now views parenting practises from a fresh perspective. 

Lekki offers us a glimpse into her professional and personal world, including insights into her academic study of childhood nutrition, as well as her personal views on feeling confident whilst navigating the parenting maze.

I’m excited to welcome Lekki to my show today where she will assure you that no matter what your style of parenting, loving your children means you’re already doing an amazing job.

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In this episode, we talk about:

  • Lekki’s career story that led her across the Atlantic to Alabama and into the arms of her future husband
  • How Lekki and her husband reversed traditional roles when they first had children, and the affect it had on them
  • Why Lekki made the decision, even before she was pregnant, to commit to her career and return to work as soon as possible
  • How parenting in the United States is ‘unbelievably different’ to parenting in the UK
  • What left Lekki with her jaw open and her eyes wide saying ‘Oh my goodness, what have I done’
  • Which country is more reflective, more self-judgemental, and more heated about the styles of parenting
  • Why ‘winging it’ sometimes beats reading parenting books
  • Some shared knowledge about the nutritional study of children that she is currently undertaking

 

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

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If you want to leave a comment for Lekki, whether it’s about her research in child development or your own thoughts on raising children as an ex-pat, then we’d love you to come and say hello.

And let us know in the comments;

Are you raising children in circumstances you didn’t previously consider? Do you use your intuition when parenting or do you prefer to do it ‘by the book’?

We can’t wait to hear from you.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BUZZ FEED: Social News and Entertainment

COMPUTER GAME: Slither.io

ONLINE MARKETPLACE: Etsy

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: The End of the Affair by Graham Greene

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PSSST, IS IT JUST ME?: Thanks to Lekki’s son Sam age 4 from Houston, Texas

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056: What I’d Say to Judgemental Strangers, If I Had the Nerve | Lisa York

Those who judge don’t understand. Those who understand don’t judge
 

Has a random stranger ever come up to you and told you off about what you’re doing (or not doing) with your child?

There’s nothing I find more irritating.

Stranger: “Excuse me dear, it’s a very cold day. Don’t you think he should have his socks on”.

You: “You don’t say. That’s why I’ve put them back on 15 times already and finally gave up about a minute before you arrived” (said in thought bubble).

It’s happened to me just a few times in my 7 years as a parent, but boy, do I remember it.

Why?

Because it’s annoying. And it feels like a hurtful criticism when I’m trying my best.

Does the stranger remember it?

No. Of course not.

Because to them it’s just a fly-away comment.

This week on High Five Friday, I rant about what I’d say to that random stranger, if I had the nerve.

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Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

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051: Change your Food, Change your Mood, Change your Life | Bel Smith

Follow your passion; it will lead to your purpose

[Oprah Winfrey]

Do you feel under pressure to feed your children healthily when all they want are sweets and chocolate? Do you feel bewildered by food labels that appear to be healthy but you’re not quite sure?

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday you’ll discover about a passion so strong, it became a life changer.

My guest today is SuperMum, Bel Smith.

Bel is a Health and Wellness coach and lives a life on the road with her husband, Israel, ten year old daughter and six year old son. Last year they made the giant leap of selling their home and investing in a big green bus named Kaley. Bel and her family made it their mission to spend two years touring Australia spreading the important message of eating well for a better life.

Bel is the creator of the Mad Food Science™ Programme where she teaches children, parents and teachers how to understand food labelling and make informed choices. She also created the 5 Minute Healthy Lunchbox System™ as a way to help reduce the stress for parents packing lunch boxes.

Having turned to nutrition to treat her husband’s diagnosis of depression, Bel quickly saw the affects the quality of nutrition were having on all members of her family. She learned that what you put in your body has a direct affect on your mood, emotions and overall wellness. Bel knows that knowledge of nutrition is a powerful tool to both mental and physical wellness and wanted to spread her message.

Today Bel shares her family’s incredible journey across the length and breath of Australia. And she encourages you to think, ‘What would Jamie [Oliver] do?’ not only when considering your food choices, but your life choices.

I’m delighted to have Bel on my show today as she’ll teach you how to transform your life through following your passion, standing for what you believe in, and the power of self belief.

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In this episode, we talk about:

  • What inspired Bel to sell her home, live in a bus and travel Australia
  • What triggered Bel to spontaneously quit her corporate job without warning
  • What life on the road is like when you have children in tow
  • Why Bel believes her lifestyle choice has enriched her children’s lives beyond belief
  • The difference between distance learning and homeschooling and how to incorporate it in your travels
  • How to regain confidence in yourself as a mum and be strong in your decision making
  • If in doubt, why you can ask yourself, ‘What would Jamie do?’

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

Tell me what you think?

If you want to leave a comment for Bel, whether it’s about nutrition, education or lifestyle, then we’d love you to come and say hello.

And let us know in the comments;

Have you ever made a radical life change in order to pursue your passion? Is there something you believe in so strongly that you’re willing to change your life for it?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

QUOTE AUTHOR: Oprah Winfrey

BEL’S INFORMATION

PROFILE: Jamie Oliver

BOOK: The Universe Has Your Back: How to Feel Safe and Trust Your Life No Matter What by Gabrielle Bernstein

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Gentle Healing for Baby and Child: A Parent’s Guide to Child Friendly Herbs and Other Natural Remedies for Common Ailments and Injuries by Andrea Candee

PSSST, IS IT JUST ME? Thanks to Fred age 7 from Canberra, Australia. If you would like your little one to feature at the end of my show, send me an email and I’ll tell you how

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050: An Easy Way to Prime Yourself to Face the Day | Michelle Dawson

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine
[John C Maxwell]
 

Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore is not an act, but a habit.”

True words. But creating new habits isn’t easy for a rushed-off-your-feet mum.

But then, can you afford NOT to have daily rituals?

If mum of three busy boys aged 5, 3 and 6 months can find time to prime herself each morning for the day ahead, then so can you.

This week on High Five Friday, Michelle Dawson talks about the incredible power of a daily morning ritual to set you up for the day.

 

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Do you have certain rituals you do each day? What are they? How do they make you feel?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

QUOTE AUTHOR: John C Maxwell

ARTICLE: With Hot Coffee, We See a Warm Heart, Yale Researchers Find. Yale News

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046: My Biggest Challenge of the Early Years | Libby Lennon

You’re not the best version of yourself when you’re sleep deprived 
[Libby Lennon]

Being a mother is tough.

When you first start out, you’re thrown in at the deep end and left to deal with crying newborns, tantrum-ing toddlers and projectile vomit.

And that’s before breakfast.

Bless their dear little hearts.

The early years give us a plentiful supply of challenges. (Someone tell me it gets easier. Please.)

This week on High Five Friday, Libby Lennon shares with us her biggest challenge of the early years.

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Challenges change and move on to pastures new as your children grow. What’s the biggest challenge you face as a mother right now?

I’d love to hear from you in the comments.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

PREVIOUS EPISODE: 005: Overcoming the Challenges of the Early Years | Libby Lennon

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045: How to Be Happy as You Muddle Through Motherhood | Olivia Horne

Happiness, happiness, the greatest gift that I posses

[Ken Dodd]

Want to know how to be happy, happy, happy?

Welcome to Mum-to-Mum Monday where you’re about to rediscover your happiness. Remember that? The smiling face you used to have that’s long-since been buried under piles of laundry and the demands of family life.

But today you’ll discover how to reconnect with your inner joy, even during the most challenging of times, while the little people in your world continue to keep you rushed off your feet.

My guest today is SuperMum, Olivia Horne.

Olivia is a Happiness Coach and lives in West London with her husband and two daughters who are 4 and almost 2. Her degree in Experimental Psychology from The University of Oxford, UK and vast experience in the Well-Being Industry was bought together after her less-than-magical first experience of motherhood.

It compelled her to help change the lives of other mothers so they don’t encounter the same negative experience of motherhood that she suffered.

Juggling young children, work, relationships and the demands of running a household is all in a days work for Olivia. But she has learned, and is able to teach you, that being in touch with your happiness is critical in moulding your day to day decisions. You’ll be better able to tap into your instincts, give yourself the freedom of choice and become more self-assured in your life as a parent.

As Olivia says, the expectations of motherhood can be very different from the reality, and this can very quickly erode your sense of identity, confidence and your capacity to care for yourself. But she will help you peel away your feelings of frustration, self-doubt, worry and guilt to reveal the happiness that’s been lurking beneath all along.

When you’re able to connect with your own internal happiness you can finally learn to slow down and smell the roses, live in the moment a little more, and be truthful with yourself. Your life then becomes more joyful and carefree as you muddle through motherhood.

I can’t wait to introduce Olivia to you today as she will help you to find your buried happiness and gently encourage it back to the surface.

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • How Olivia turned around her numb, lonely, exhausting and scary first experience of motherhood and found happiness
  • The definition of true, authentic happiness. Not the ‘jazz-hands’ type, but the type that sits quietly inside you
  • How Olivia used her professional knowledge, skills and mummy-on-the-ground experience to become a Happiness Coach
  • Common issues and problems that crop up time and again with mums, and eats away their happiness
  • Some of the techniques a Happiness Coach uses to reconnect you with your previous joyful self
  • A ‘buffet’ of quick, everyday tips to bring you more happiness in a trice
  • How Olivia found her happy place and what happiness looks like for her

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

Tell me what you think?

If you want to leave a comment for a mum who understands the difficulties of motherhood but was able to overcome them, come and say hi.

And let us know in the comments;

What’s your happy place? What can you do to improve your life and find happiness right now?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

OLIVIA’S INFORMATION

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim McMillen

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041: How to Make a Virtue Out of Uncertainty | Victoria Labalme

Follow your gifts .… and it will take you to where you are meant to be

[Victoria Labalme]

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday, you’ll learn how to ‘Risk Forward™’. Motherhood can be a time of great uncertainty and it’s hard to figure out the best way forward. You’re often left without direction as to the right path to choose. Turns out, that’s a good thing.

My guest today is Victoria Labalme.

Victoria, who has four adult step-children and lives with her husband in New York, is a Strategic Performance Coach and Performing Artist. She’s an accomplished keynote and TEDx speaker, and has been in professional show business for over two decades. Her impressive list of clients include corporate giants such as Starbucks, Microsoft and PayPal.

Although Victoria commonly helps elite entrepreneurs, best-selling authors and C-suite executives to communicate with confidence, authenticity and impact, her work can also be applied to mums. In fact, the concept of Risking Forward™ aligns perfectly with mums because it’s something you already do so naturally without even realising it.

Rather than feeling lost, Victoria teaches you that stepping forward, slightly off balance with your heart open can be a beneficial way to live your life. Uncertainty is actually a virtue, and we need to embrace it and find confidence in it.

I’m so excited to welcome Victoria to my podcast because she shows you that, as she says in her Risk Forward™ TEDx talk, “Periods of uncertainty, when a path or a project is not yet clear, are fertile and full of promise and that they are to be respected and honoured.”

 

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  • What it means to Risk Forward™ and how Risking Forward™ can benefit mums
  • Why mums suffer from ‘decision-pressure’ and ‘goal-anxiety’, and how you can alleviate it
  • Why being busy and being tired have become status symbols
  • How you can jump off the hamster wheel, slow down, and stop being so busy, busy, busy
  • What is ‘The Throughline™’, and how you can connect to it
  • How to have the courage to follow the right path for you, even if everyone thinks otherwise
  • How to have confidence in yourself, even when you feel like you’re getting it wrong

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

Tell me what you think?

What do you think of the concept of Risking Forward™? Can you make a virtue out of the uncertainty you face in your life?

Let me know in the comments.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

VICTORIA’S WEBSITE: Victoria Labalme

WEBSITE: Rock The Room Online

WEBSITE: Rock The Room Live

BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS:

  • The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks and Win Your Inner Creative Battles by Steven Pressfield
  • Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
  • Arm in Arm: A Collection of Connections, Endless Tales, Reiterations, and Other Echolalia by Remy Charlip

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039: The Mother of all Journeys; Warts and All | Bee Rowlatt

I do not wish [women] to have power over men; but over themselves

[Mary Wollstonecraft]

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday, we’re going on an adventure. Back in time to the 18th Century where we follow the extraordinary story of a mother of yesteryear. If Mary Wollstonecraft was around today, she would be considered a pretty normal mum. But back then her actions and choices caused plenty of tut-tutting and twitching curtains, and her bad reputation preceded her.

My guest today is SuperMum Bee Rowlatt.

Bee is a writer, journalist and broadcaster who has worked for the BBC for over two decades. She’s a regular contributor to the Daily Telegraph, and the author of several books including ‘In Search of Mary’ which we’ll be talking about today. Oh, and if that wasn’t enough, she also has four children aged between 6 and 15. Bee, her husband and four kids moved from London to New Delhi a couple of years ago in search of their next life-experience.

In a moment of ‘mum-life crisis’ and sick of the endless piles of laundry, Bee whisked up her 10 month old son and set off on an extraordinary adventure in search of the life and legacy of Mary Wollstonecraft, the first celebrity feminist.

In her quest to find a new balance between careers and babies, Bee also discovered the importance of celebrating the radiant power of love in all our lives.

In discussing motherhood in the 1790’s, Bee brings the joys, challenges and craziness of being a mum right back into the 21st Century. We talk about ‘having it all’ as a mum; the influence of culture on your experience as a mum; and creating adventure in your life despite the restrictions of motherhood.

Bee is the most down-to-earth, tell-it-like-it-is, frank, honest and open mum I’ve had on the show, and I know you’re gonna love her. So hold on to your hats, we’re going on an adventure!

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • Why a mother from the 18th Century is relevant to you as a mum in the 21st Century
  • How mums who love being homemakers and care-givers, fit in the world of feminism
  • Why Bee was a ‘slow and reluctant adapter’ to motherhood
  • Why, when the laundry kept piling up, Bee felt the need to seek out some adventure
  • Why finding yourself as a woman often becomes easier the more children you have
  • How you can combine being a great mum with having a great career
  • The differences – and similarities – of mothers from different countries and different cultures
  • The pros and cons of offering your children stability verses offering them adventure

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

Tell me what you think?

If you have a question or want some advice from an adventure-seeking mum of four, ask away.

And let us know in the comments. What next adventure do you want to embark on? Do you believe you can take time out from your piles of laundry to seek some excitement?

Bee and I can’t wait to hear from you.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BEE’S WEBSITE: Bee Rowlatt

BEE ON TWITTER: @beerowlatt

BOOKS BY BEE ROWLATT:

ARTICLE: In Search of Mary: The Mother of All Journeys, by Bee Rowlatt – Book Review

BBC DOCUMENTARY: Make Me a German 

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Letters written during a short residence in Sweden, Norway and Denmark by Mary Wollstonecraft

WOLLSTONECRAFT MEMORIAL: Mary on the Green Campaign

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034: Why You Should Lighten Up, Let Your Hair Down and Learn to Laugh a Little

[Mums] just wanna have fun

[Cyndi Lauper]

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This morning on the 30 minute walk to school, I counted the number of times I moaned at my kids. 

I ran out of fingers and toes. 

But I’m OK with that, because I’m keeping my kids safe, I’m teaching them to be kind, I’m helping them to be compassionate. 

I’m bringing them up to be good citizens of the world, and I’m doing my job well. 

But at what point to I need to stop being so uptight, and start laughing a little? 

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about when it’s OK to stop being the mummy-police and start to let our hair down a little.

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My challenge for this week is to seek out a moment, where you can just say, ‘stuff it’, and let your hair down a little, despite the fall out that you’ll have to sort out later.

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. What did you and your kids have fun doing? What did you all laugh about together? And what we’re the repercussions?

I’m here to spur you on and help you as much as possible

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

PREVIOUS EPISODE: 037: Discover How to Set the Burning Desire in Your Belly Ablaze | Kate Greenstock

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