Energy Drains Checklist

Discover why you’re so darned tired all the time

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As a mum of FOUR primary-school aged children, I know all too well how utterly exhausting life with children can be. Keeping on top of the never-ending demands life that throws at you can make you feel wrung out and frazzled.

But don’t worry. I’m here to help you claim back a little bit of your lost vitality.

Let’s Go!

Lisa York x

Time vs. Energy

It’s easy to think that there aren’t enough hours in the day. The fact is, there are. The problem isn’t so much a lack of time, but a lack of energy to do the things you want to do.

Discovering the concept of knowing where my energy was ‘leaking’ was a game-changer for me. It helped me understand myself better, enabled me to direct my attention to areas that needed fixing, and gave me permission to be kinder to myself. 

Before we get going, there’s one really important thing to note. This checklist isn’t about beating yourself up because you’re not doing everything you should. Instead, it’s about awareness. Making changes to your lifestyle and habits can come later as you add them in slowly and incrementally over time. For now, it’s just about recognising where the weaknesses lie so you can plug the holes at your own pace in the way that works around what you can manage.

Understanding Energy

Let’s get cracking, because understanding your energy drains is the first step to you feeling more vitality. Once you’ve got a bit of a spring in your step, you’ll have the capacity to untangle your overloaded life and start to achieve more. It’s an upwardly positive cycle.

First up, check out this video. It’s part of a course* I created in Let’s Conquer Motherhood which explains the concept of Energy Drains.

Listening Time: 3 minutes, 40 seconds

Now you’ve watched the video, you’ll know there are four types of energy.

Now, have a look through the list and see where your energy might be leaking.

Physical Energy Checklist

Physical Energy is the most obvious source of energy, and the one you’d naturally associate with your lack of vitality. Physical Energy comes from (or is depleted by) food, movement, sleep and relaxation. 

These elements will have a huge impact on your overall energy levels, and, whilst it’s important, the biggest drain on your energy is yet to come. Even so, ask yourself these questions to see where you’re loosing valuable energy and use them as a springboard to consider how you can start to make small tweaks and changes in your everyday life.

  • Are you eating a healthy diet with plenty of fruit and vegetables?
  • Are you eating too much sugar, chocolate or soft drinks?
  • Are you drinking enough water?
  • Are you reaching for caffeine or alcohol as a pick-me-up?
  • Are you getting enough light exercise each day?
  • Are you running around the park with your kids or sitting on a bench?
  • Are you getting up from your desk regularly?
  • Is movement part of your daily routine?
  • Are you getting an adequate amount of sleep each night?
  • Do you struggle to fall asleep, or get back to sleep if you wake during the night?
  • Are your children keeping you awake at night?
  • Do you wake feeling refreshed?
  • Are you taking regular breaks from your work?
  • Do you stop to be in the moment and feel present?
  • Do you take deep breaths, meditate or practice self care?
  • Do you step away from your kids and other commitments to have a few minutes to yourself?

Emotional Energy Checklist

Of the four types of energy, Emotional Energy will have the biggest drain on you by far. And, oh boy, all your emotions are magnified when you become a mum, aren’t they.

It was a  lightbulb moment for me when I realised that the constant battles I was having with my son were the cause of my crippling exhaustion. I think most mums would resonate with being emotionally drained, after all, we’re being endlessly pulled in so many different directions, and catering to the never-ending demands is relentless. 

Motherhood is SO emotionally draining.

Do you fall into any of these categories? If so, that could be the major answer to why you’re tired all the time.

  • Do you have any difficult relationships (for example with your husband, child, friends, work colleagues, family members)?
  • Do you experience a lot of negative emotions? (mum-guilt, loneliness, frustration, overwhelm, anger, stress etc)
  • Are you always choosing to do ‘useful’ activities over ‘enjoyable’ ones?
  • Are you having fun, enjoying a challenge, seeing life as an adventure and seeing opportunities?

Mental Energy Checklist

This area is all about having a strong and clear mind, a high level of resilience, positivity and clarity, a sense of order, and systems in place. If your mind is not in order, it will deplete your energy by making you toss and turn at night and stressed out during the day. Do any of these questions resonate with you?

  • Do you feel strong, resilient and capable?
  • Are you realistic in what you can achieve?
  • Is your life ordered or disordered, systematised or chaotic?
  • Do you spend time being creative (whatever creative means to you)?

Spiritual Energy Checklist

This area is about the big picture of your life – your purpose, your goals, and your ‘why’. Your children naturally give you a legacy, but do you know what you want for them, or for yourself in life?

Not having an idea of a grander plan means you’ll tend to wander, follow the crowd and be pushed into doing things that don’t quite align with who you are. So answer these questions to understand more about your Spiritual Energy levels.

  • Do you have plans for the next 3 months, for the next year, for when the kids have left home?
  • Do you believe in something bigger than yourself?
  • Do you give yourself time to think by just staring into space once in a while?
  • Do you know your purpose? Your values? What you believe in?

Next Steps

Now you have identified your Energy Drains, it’s time to do something about it. If not, you’ll spend your motherhood journey dragging your feet and feeling exhausted and cranky.

I don’t want you to look back with regret. I want you to feel deep in your bones that you’re a really good mum. That way, you can start to enjoy the back out of motherhood and start creating memories you’ll treasure.

I have two great resources to help you put some new habits into place so you can start to reclaim your energy.

Remember, this is a long-term exercise.

Take your time, don’t beat yourself up and slowly you’ll start to see improvements.

Good luck!

* This video is part of the course, ‘Tired of Being Tired? Discover Your Energy Drains’ which you can access when you join Let’s Conquer Motherhood