I‘d love you to leave a comment. Just to say ‘Lisa, I’m here’ so I know you’re with me
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Helen says:
Hi Lisa,
For me, having two children under two has forced me to slow down on the daily “to do’s” I pick one job to do each day…hoovering or, cleaning the kitchen cupboards down or, stripping the beds for example. Doing this had enabled me to spend more time with my children without feeling distracted by the niggling stuff that should be doing!…and still feel I’ve achieved something. It also means that I no longer feel anxious or frustrated when my toddler takes a loooong time to do things. Instead, I feel more relaxed and enjoy those moments.
Loving the video series. And I would buy rather than bake!!
xxx
I do exactly the same and just limit the jobs I do each day …. or for me, the pocket of time in which I do them. If it doesn’t get done, it doesn’t get done. Otherwise you could go on forever and we end up being slaves to the laundry. No way!
Hi Lisa, this is such an important message! Mom’s are not the best at asking for help as we feel we should(not a great word) be able to do it all. Best thing that ever happened to me came out of having knee surgery years ago. I ended up 6 weeks non-weight bearing on crutches so I had no choice but to ask for help from my family and friends. The other point about being able to prioritize(stacking I believe you called it) is so important. I came to the realization a while ago that I don’t have to give a firm yes or now answer when asked to volunteer or help out someone. I can actually give myself permission to pause and make sure I have space to say yes. This has helped me elevate a lot of stress, because the last thing I ever want to do is say yes and have to back out.
Looking forward to Day 4!
I learnt about accepting help the hard way too after my (then) 3 year old was diagnosed with leukaemia. I absolutely love accepting help now! Very liberating and it’s the stuff solid relationships are made of xx
I’m terrible at this but my husband is even worse – he just doesn’t know when to say no and it puts extra pressure on all of us. Think I’ll be sharing this one and your podcast with him!
Hi Lisa! Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I totally agree with the ‘stacking’ you speak of in this video. When I feel like I am drowning with to-do’s, I find doing a brain dump or ‘BIG List’ as I like to call it, is the most helpful thing. If I can get all of those jobs onto paper and eliminate the unimportant and prioritise others, things are so much better. Thank you 🙂
I do the same. Once everything is on a list, it’s much easy to work out what needs to happen right away, and what can wait. Thanks for leaving a comment Christy. Hope you enjoy the rest of the video series.
I love your podcasts and listen to them in my ‘me time.’ I have a 7 month old and always feel jobs keep coming up. Now instead of a to do list each day I write one for the week and try to get them done over the week. And cross out jobs that aren’t urgent! Love it. Finding more time for myself now. I also have 1 day a week where I don’t do anything except look after my son and cook tea. The house work is on hold and when he naps I read or scrapbook or do anything else I like 🙂 you always make me feel like a supermum 🙂
It’s wonderful to hear you’re finding your me-time. You’re right, the jobs are continually hitting us thick and fast. It’s never going to end so I love that you’re being canny with how you manage them. I know when I take time to have my me-time, I’m so much happier, and so much more patient with my kids! Lisa x
Hi Lisa,
For me, having two children under two has forced me to slow down on the daily “to do’s” I pick one job to do each day…hoovering or, cleaning the kitchen cupboards down or, stripping the beds for example. Doing this had enabled me to spend more time with my children without feeling distracted by the niggling stuff that should be doing!…and still feel I’ve achieved something. It also means that I no longer feel anxious or frustrated when my toddler takes a loooong time to do things. Instead, I feel more relaxed and enjoy those moments.
Loving the video series. And I would buy rather than bake!!
xxx
I do exactly the same and just limit the jobs I do each day …. or for me, the pocket of time in which I do them. If it doesn’t get done, it doesn’t get done. Otherwise you could go on forever and we end up being slaves to the laundry. No way!
Hi Lisa,
I can definitely relate to the overwhelm.
I often tell my husband that I feel like I start at the base of Mt Everest and need to reach the Summit every day.
Take care,
Nicole
Tell me about it. The to-do list is never ending, and pretty deflating when you realise that tomorrows to-do’s are a carbon copy of todays!!
Hi Lisa, this is such an important message! Mom’s are not the best at asking for help as we feel we should(not a great word) be able to do it all. Best thing that ever happened to me came out of having knee surgery years ago. I ended up 6 weeks non-weight bearing on crutches so I had no choice but to ask for help from my family and friends. The other point about being able to prioritize(stacking I believe you called it) is so important. I came to the realization a while ago that I don’t have to give a firm yes or now answer when asked to volunteer or help out someone. I can actually give myself permission to pause and make sure I have space to say yes. This has helped me elevate a lot of stress, because the last thing I ever want to do is say yes and have to back out.
Looking forward to Day 4!
I learnt about accepting help the hard way too after my (then) 3 year old was diagnosed with leukaemia. I absolutely love accepting help now! Very liberating and it’s the stuff solid relationships are made of xx
I’m terrible at this but my husband is even worse – he just doesn’t know when to say no and it puts extra pressure on all of us. Think I’ll be sharing this one and your podcast with him!
I love how so many mums get their husbands to listen ….. or sneakily leave things playing when they’re in earshot! Love it.
Hi Lisa! Thanks for sharing your experience with us. I totally agree with the ‘stacking’ you speak of in this video. When I feel like I am drowning with to-do’s, I find doing a brain dump or ‘BIG List’ as I like to call it, is the most helpful thing. If I can get all of those jobs onto paper and eliminate the unimportant and prioritise others, things are so much better. Thank you 🙂
I do the same. Once everything is on a list, it’s much easy to work out what needs to happen right away, and what can wait. Thanks for leaving a comment Christy. Hope you enjoy the rest of the video series.
I love your podcasts and listen to them in my ‘me time.’ I have a 7 month old and always feel jobs keep coming up. Now instead of a to do list each day I write one for the week and try to get them done over the week. And cross out jobs that aren’t urgent! Love it. Finding more time for myself now. I also have 1 day a week where I don’t do anything except look after my son and cook tea. The house work is on hold and when he naps I read or scrapbook or do anything else I like 🙂 you always make me feel like a supermum 🙂
It’s wonderful to hear you’re finding your me-time. You’re right, the jobs are continually hitting us thick and fast. It’s never going to end so I love that you’re being canny with how you manage them. I know when I take time to have my me-time, I’m so much happier, and so much more patient with my kids! Lisa x