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057: The Mummy Professor: Gaining Knowledge and ‘Winging It’ | Alexis ‘Lekki’ Frazier-Wood

No study is perfect

[Lekki Frazier-Wood]

It will comfort you to know, that having a PhD in Child Development doesn’t necessarily mean you feel like an expert when it comes to raising your own children. The decisions and choices you make for your children are just as tough, with or without prior knowledge.

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday we’ll be discussing what it’s like for an English woman to raise children in America; how traditional roles can be turned on their heads; and how a career researching child development can influence parenting techniques. 

My guest today is SuperMum, Lekki Frazier-Wood.

Originally from London, Lekki started her career as a Social Scientist specialising in child development, and has spent 8 years living in Alabama and Texas. English-born Lekki now lives in Houston with her American husband Wes, 4 year old son and daughter of 15 months. She’s a Professor of Paediatrics, studying childhood nutrition at the Baylor College of Medicine in Houston, Texas. 

Before meeting her husband, it never crossed Lekki’s mind that she would marry an American or have children anywhere other than England. And having kids in a foreign land has challenged her thinking about the norms of the Southern ‘Bible Belt’ and now views parenting practises from a fresh perspective. 

Lekki offers us a glimpse into her professional and personal world, including insights into her academic study of childhood nutrition, as well as her personal views on feeling confident whilst navigating the parenting maze.

I’m excited to welcome Lekki to my show today where she will assure you that no matter what your style of parenting, loving your children means you’re already doing an amazing job.

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In this episode, we talk about:

  • Lekki’s career story that led her across the Atlantic to Alabama and into the arms of her future husband
  • How Lekki and her husband reversed traditional roles when they first had children, and the affect it had on them
  • Why Lekki made the decision, even before she was pregnant, to commit to her career and return to work as soon as possible
  • How parenting in the United States is ‘unbelievably different’ to parenting in the UK
  • What left Lekki with her jaw open and her eyes wide saying ‘Oh my goodness, what have I done’
  • Which country is more reflective, more self-judgemental, and more heated about the styles of parenting
  • Why ‘winging it’ sometimes beats reading parenting books
  • Some shared knowledge about the nutritional study of children that she is currently undertaking

 

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

Tell me what you think?

If you want to leave a comment for Lekki, whether it’s about her research in child development or your own thoughts on raising children as an ex-pat, then we’d love you to come and say hello.

And let us know in the comments;

Are you raising children in circumstances you didn’t previously consider? Do you use your intuition when parenting or do you prefer to do it ‘by the book’?

We can’t wait to hear from you.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BUZZ FEED: Social News and Entertainment

COMPUTER GAME: Slither.io

ONLINE MARKETPLACE: Etsy

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: The End of the Affair by Graham Greene

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PSSST, IS IT JUST ME?: Thanks to Lekki’s son Sam age 4 from Houston, Texas

If you would like your little one to feature at the end of my show, send me an email and I’ll show you how

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056: What I’d Say to Judgemental Strangers, If I Had the Nerve | Lisa York

Those who judge don’t understand. Those who understand don’t judge
 

Has a random stranger ever come up to you and told you off about what you’re doing (or not doing) with your child?

There’s nothing I find more irritating.

Stranger: “Excuse me dear, it’s a very cold day. Don’t you think he should have his socks on”.

You: “You don’t say. That’s why I’ve put them back on 15 times already and finally gave up about a minute before you arrived” (said in thought bubble).

It’s happened to me just a few times in my 7 years as a parent, but boy, do I remember it.

Why?

Because it’s annoying. And it feels like a hurtful criticism when I’m trying my best.

Does the stranger remember it?

No. Of course not.

Because to them it’s just a fly-away comment.

This week on High Five Friday, I rant about what I’d say to that random stranger, if I had the nerve.

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Has a complete stranger ever told you off in public? How did you feel? And how did you react? Now’s your time to vent, so tell me your story in the comments.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

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054: Who am I? Finding Your Lost Identity | Lauren Wills

Who are you? asked the Caterpillar. I hardly know, sir …. I know who I WAS … but I think I must have changed. 
[Lewis Carroll]

Motherhood, as you know, is a hugely transitional time. And in the fog of raising kids, it’s possible to completely loose the sense of who you are in all of this.

But exhale, because research shows that this is completely normal. And it’s OK. Because it’s all part of an evolving process.

You won’t feel lost forever.

This week on High Five Friday, I ask mum of two Lauren Wills, who is a PhD candidate studying the well-being of pre-school mothers, to explain how and why our identity changes when we become a mum.

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Do you feel like you’ve lost your identity since you became a mum? How do you feel about it? Do you think you’ll be able to unveil a new you?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

QUOTE AUTHOR: Lewis Carroll

LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE: 021: Self Care is Vital and Here’s the Proof | Lauren Wills

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049: Empower Yourself So You Can Empower Your Children | Christine Watts

Make peace with the mirror and watch the reflection change

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? A confident, strong and empowered woman, or a tired and frazzled wreck?

In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday you’ll learn that, how you view yourself as a women and as a mother, is a strong reflection to your children upon which they base their own behaviours.

My guest today is SuperMum, Christine Watts.

Christine and her husband live in rural Victoria, Australia, and have three daughters in their twenties. She’s an experienced teacher who has taught all age groups, and was a founding member of a Steiner school.

Christine now works with children, parents and teachers to help children build confidence, have high self esteem, create physical awareness and develop emotional intelligence.

Christine believes that it’s not the words you say to your children that really matters, but who you reveal yourself to be. How you choose to behave, to act, and to express yourself as a mother, has a direct impact on your children because they follow the lead of your example.

Christine encourages you to use innovation, creativity and imagination as the basis for raising happy, healthy and confident children. By doing so, this empowers our little ones to be the greatest version of themselves and enables them to create a brilliant world for themselves.

Which means, of course, a brilliant world for you too.

I am excited to welcome Christine to my show today because she’ll introduce you to using your own values and core beliefs to model the behaviours you want your children to mirror.

 

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • Why with our children, how you behave is more important than the words you say 
  • How you can create good behaviour for yourself so your children will copy
  • Why your children should still mirror your actions, even when you’re really cross
  • What the most important focus in your role as a mother should be
  • Why taking care of yourself should come above everything else
  • The 3 doorways to raising amazing young people
  • Why gratitude is important, even on our worst days
  • How you can stop being so busy and start slowing down

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

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If you want to leave a comment for an experienced teacher and a mum who successfully got her children through to adulthood then we’d love you to come and say hello.

And let us know in the comments;

What do you see when you look in the mirror? Can you look a little closer and see the strong, empowered and amazing mother that you are?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

CHRISTINE’S WEBSITE: Children Create the World with Christine Watts

EDUCATION SYSTEM: Steiner Education

PROFILE: Louise Hay

PROFILE: Eckhart Tolle

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: Finding the Magic: A Map for the Child in all of Us by Barbara Bossert Ramsay

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045: How to Be Happy as You Muddle Through Motherhood | Olivia Horne

Happiness, happiness, the greatest gift that I posses

[Ken Dodd]

Want to know how to be happy, happy, happy?

Welcome to Mum-to-Mum Monday where you’re about to rediscover your happiness. Remember that? The smiling face you used to have that’s long-since been buried under piles of laundry and the demands of family life.

But today you’ll discover how to reconnect with your inner joy, even during the most challenging of times, while the little people in your world continue to keep you rushed off your feet.

My guest today is SuperMum, Olivia Horne.

Olivia is a Happiness Coach and lives in West London with her husband and two daughters who are 4 and almost 2. Her degree in Experimental Psychology from The University of Oxford, UK and vast experience in the Well-Being Industry was bought together after her less-than-magical first experience of motherhood.

It compelled her to help change the lives of other mothers so they don’t encounter the same negative experience of motherhood that she suffered.

Juggling young children, work, relationships and the demands of running a household is all in a days work for Olivia. But she has learned, and is able to teach you, that being in touch with your happiness is critical in moulding your day to day decisions. You’ll be better able to tap into your instincts, give yourself the freedom of choice and become more self-assured in your life as a parent.

As Olivia says, the expectations of motherhood can be very different from the reality, and this can very quickly erode your sense of identity, confidence and your capacity to care for yourself. But she will help you peel away your feelings of frustration, self-doubt, worry and guilt to reveal the happiness that’s been lurking beneath all along.

When you’re able to connect with your own internal happiness you can finally learn to slow down and smell the roses, live in the moment a little more, and be truthful with yourself. Your life then becomes more joyful and carefree as you muddle through motherhood.

I can’t wait to introduce Olivia to you today as she will help you to find your buried happiness and gently encourage it back to the surface.

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • How Olivia turned around her numb, lonely, exhausting and scary first experience of motherhood and found happiness
  • The definition of true, authentic happiness. Not the ‘jazz-hands’ type, but the type that sits quietly inside you
  • How Olivia used her professional knowledge, skills and mummy-on-the-ground experience to become a Happiness Coach
  • Common issues and problems that crop up time and again with mums, and eats away their happiness
  • Some of the techniques a Happiness Coach uses to reconnect you with your previous joyful self
  • A ‘buffet’ of quick, everyday tips to bring you more happiness in a trice
  • How Olivia found her happy place and what happiness looks like for her

 

 Hope you enjoy todays show!

Tell me what you think?

If you want to leave a comment for a mum who understands the difficulties of motherhood but was able to overcome them, come and say hi.

And let us know in the comments;

What’s your happy place? What can you do to improve your life and find happiness right now?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

OLIVIA’S INFORMATION

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: When I Loved Myself Enough by Kim McMillen

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035: Seek Out Your Strengths and Discover the Best Possible You | Nikki Smith

Build on your strengths and your weaknesses will take care of themselves

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In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday, we’ll be talking about how to discover, understand and use your true strengths. As women we’re often quick to identify our weaknesses, but are much more reserved when it comes to seeking out our strengths. The thing is, if we can play to our strengths and see them as our superpowers, we can use them to our advantage.

My guest today is SuperMum Nikki Smith

Nikki is a Psychologist and Career Coach, and the mum of two daughters who are 7 and 4.  She’s a keen surfer loves to catch the waves at the beach near her home in Barwon Heads in Australia.

In her work, Nikki focuses on helping her clients get to know their true strengths and encourages them to leverage those strengths to transform their work life into something that they’re passionate about.

In todays show, Nikki teaches us that your true strengths are activities that energise you, and that you find ease with. The great thing about understanding your strengths, is that you can employ them in all areas areas of your life, including your role as mum.

When you discover your strengths, you gain clarity, confidence and momentum in your life; and when you play to them, you double your productivity, resilience and creativity.

I’m really excited to talk to Nikki today because she will help you understand your strengths and in doing so, discover the best possible you.

 

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • Why women find easy to identify their weaknesses, yet so difficult to uncover their strengths
  • How Nikki managed to create a dream life, and work that she loves, around her strengths
  • The benefits of understanding our strengths and how we can figure out what our strengths are
  • Whether it’s worthwhile spending our time and energy turning our weaknesses into strengths
  • How we can use our own personal strengths to double our productivity, resilience and creativity
  • The power of ‘mini-experiments’ and how we can use them to help us find the right path
  • How to stop fear and self doubt from holding us back from forging ahead with something new
  • How to break through the barriers that hold us back from creating an optimal life

 

 

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 Hope you enjoy todays show!

 

Tell me what you think?

If you have a question or want some advice from a Psychologist and Career Coach who specialises in finding your strengths, ask away.

And tell us in the comments. What are your strengths? Don’t be shy – it’s about time we mums start announcing our strengths loud and proud.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

NIKKI’S WEBSITE: Nikki Smith: Transform Your Work Life

FREE GIVEAWAY: Strengths Guide

BOOK RECOMMENDATION: The Happiness Advantage: The Seven Principles of Positive Psychology that Fuel Success and Performance at Work by Shawn Achor

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031: A Kick up the Bum to Get What you Want in Life | Dr. Karen Osburn

Get clear on what you want in life and everything changes

[Dr. Karen Osburn]

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In today’s episode of Mum-to-Mum Monday we’ll be finding out how to get clear on what you want out of life and how to create the right mindset to go out and get it. You’ll learn how to be strong and powerful and go out and grab everything you want.

My guest today is SuperMum, Dr. Karen Osburn.

Karen is a Powerful Bad Ass Mindset Coach for Women Who Want More. She hosts the frank and honest, tell-it-like-it-is Women Wanting More podcast where she embraces her message, ‘Get Clear on What you Want in Life, and Everything Changes’.

Karen lives in Victoria, British Columbia, Canada with her husband and two sons, aged 3 and 6.

Today, Karen’s direct, no nonsense style combined with her professional expertise as a coach, and her journey as a mum, will help you cut through the excuses. Her plain talk and unwavering desire will equip you with an I-am-worthy mindset, and will turn your negative self-talk into something positive and empowering.

She’ll encourage you and make it clear that you don’t have to sacrifice your unique self in order to get MORE.

I am delighted to have Karen on my show today because as a highly acclaimed podcaster, individual and group coach, she has a great deal to teach us about the BAD ASS way of getting clear about what we want and going for it!

 

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In this episode, you’ll find out:

  • How to play bigger in life, how to be powerful, and how to go out and grab the things you want
  • How to figure out what the heck it is you want as a mum, and how to go about getting it
  • How Karen’s journey to motherhood by adoption, after seven painful years trying, has influenced and affected her life today
  • What to do when you’re pushed to the edge as a mum
  • How to stop feeling so scared and start facing your fears
  • How to turn negative self-talk into something that’s positive and empowering
  • The damaging effect of not taking action, and the consequences of inaction
  • Why we should stop making excuses, and start taking responsibility

 

 

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Tell me what you think?

If you have a question or want some advice from Powerful Bad Ass Mindset Coach for Women Who Want More, ask away.

Let us know in the comments. How can you play bigger in life? What will you do to get the things you want? Does negative self talk and excuses hold you back?

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

KAREN’S WEBSITE: Women Wanting More

KAREN’S PODCAST:  Women Wanting More

MENTOR: Garret J White: Warrior on Fire

BOOK: Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life by Byron Katie

PODCAST : The School of Greatness: Become a Love Warrior In and Out of Marriage with Glennon Doyle Melton

BOOK RECOMMENDATIONS:

WEBSITE: Monastery with Glennon Doyle

PROFILE: Elizabeth Gilbert

PROFILE: Brené Brown

SUPER SOUL TV: Oprah Sits Down with Glennon Doyle Melton

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030: Why You’re Still a SuperMum, Even When your Kids are Being Brats

When things go wrong, don’t go with them

[Elvis Presley]

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My son hurling a mini quiche at the String Quartet last weekend was not my proudest mummy moment.

Now I know small boys and String Quartets are not good bed fellows, but then it’s not every day your mother-in-law turns 80.

Some things you just don’t want to miss out on.

But does that incident (and the cringe-worthy list of others that preceded it) make me a bad mother (even though it felt like it at the time)?

Heck, no!

I’m real. I’m normal. I’m learning. And I’ll try harder next time.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about what you should be telling yourself when your children are not behaving at their best.

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This weeks challenge:

My challenge for this week is to prepare yourself mentally for the difficult moments that will inevitably arise.  We’ve all had them. It will always happen and will do again, so be prepared! Remember the one thing you can control is that little voice in your head.

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. How do you feel when your kids are being rat bags? Are you thinking negatively about how other people perceive you? Or are you positively spurring yourself on inside your head? Do you tell yourself this nightmare will be over soon or do you struggle to see light at the end of the tunnel?

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

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Lisa lives with her family in Canberra, Australia.

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