038: The Immense Benefit of Kids Doing Chores, Despite Your Frustration

If everyone is moving forward together, then success takes care of itself

[Henry Ford]

Kids, can you help me clear up the dinner table please?

Guys, did you hear me?

Would you mind helping to clear up?

Hey, I’m speaking to you.

Come and help clear up.

How many times do I have to ask?

Kids! Come and clear up the dinner table.

N O W!!!

Getting kids to help with the chores is painful to say the least. In fact, given the choice, pulling out my teeth with rusty pliers seems like a good option.

But getting your brood to help around the house is not only beneficial to them, it’s beneficial to you.

It will test your patience to the max, but you’ll reap the rewards in the long-run.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about the benefits of getting your kids to help around the house, and how as the mum, you can program your own mind to achieve it.

 

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My challenge for this week is pick off one small job that your child can do to help around the house. This might be the first time they’ve had anything asked of them, or it could be that you’re gradually adding to whatever they already do.
Either way, keep it small and simple, so no-one gets overloaded. Most of all though, think about the feasibility what you’ll be asking them to do carefully before you take action. Once you go for it, you’ll need to be consistent.
Oh, and you’ll need a bucket load of patience.

 

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. What job did you get your child to do? Did they kick up a fuss, or just get on with it?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you as much as possible

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

ARTICLE: Why Children Need Chores by Jennifer Breheny Wallace for the Wall Street Journal

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036: Stop Drowning in Overwhelm and Take Back Control

You can do anything, but not everything

Do you ever feel that if one more thing goes wrong you’ll break down and cry? Or if one more demand is placed on you, you’ll surely explode?

Humm. Me too.

I call it stacking.

Each little tug on your time is perfectly innocent in it’s own right. But one thing gets stacked on top of another, and another on top of that. Eventually you have such a tall tower it starts to topple.

And of course toppling towers end up crashing down in a pile on the floor.

Our challenge as a mum is to stop that tower getting too tall.

Easier said than done, I know. But it is possible.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about how to stop drowning in overwhelm and start taking back control.

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My challenge for this week is start thinking about what foundations you need to build in order to prevent feeling overwhelmed. It’s important for the sake of your family to take care of yourself, and pair down the amount of things you have on your never-ending to-do list.

 

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. What has send you over the edge recently? What did you do to deal with it?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you as much as possible

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

PREVIOUS EPISODE: 029: The Simple Way to Plan Ahead, Get Organised and Find Your Me Time | Nicole Avery

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034: Why You Should Lighten Up, Let Your Hair Down and Learn to Laugh a Little

[Mums] just wanna have fun

[Cyndi Lauper]

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This morning on the 30 minute walk to school, I counted the number of times I moaned at my kids. 

I ran out of fingers and toes. 

But I’m OK with that, because I’m keeping my kids safe, I’m teaching them to be kind, I’m helping them to be compassionate. 

I’m bringing them up to be good citizens of the world, and I’m doing my job well. 

But at what point to I need to stop being so uptight, and start laughing a little? 

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about when it’s OK to stop being the mummy-police and start to let our hair down a little.

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My challenge for this week is to seek out a moment, where you can just say, ‘stuff it’, and let your hair down a little, despite the fall out that you’ll have to sort out later.

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. What did you and your kids have fun doing? What did you all laugh about together? And what we’re the repercussions?

I’m here to spur you on and help you as much as possible

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

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PREVIOUS EPISODE: 037: Discover How to Set the Burning Desire in Your Belly Ablaze | Kate Greenstock

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032: 5 Practical Tips for Busy Mums to Get More Sleep

Let me sleep, for when I wake I will move mountains

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From the last weeks of our first pregnancy, the sleep deficit begins. And so to, a taste of things to come. 

For me, that was over seven years ago. And as much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, I haven’t had a full eight hours since. 

Self inflicted admittedly. I’m not pregnant, don’t have a newborn and my kids sleep like angels. 

But oh! That precious golden time once the kids are in bed. The day is done, the jobs are finished (at least for now) and the house is quiet. 

ME TIME!!! Yippee 

Why would I want to give that up to go to bed?

But how well is the lack of Zzzzzz’s serving me? 

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about sleep, how a lack of sleep affects our mothering, and what we can do about it.

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My challenge for this week is to consider how much quality sleep you’re getting and what steps you can take to get a little more.
I’m in this challenge right alongside you, because I battle it too. Its difficult I know because that pocket of ‘me’ time is so elusive.
But if you can conquer it, your awake time will be far more productive, and you’ll also notice that you’re better able to move mountains when you’re fully rested. So don’t see sleep as time wasted.

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. How many hours sleep do you get a night? Is it enough or do you feel tired during the day? How can you claw back a bit more time for sleep?

I’m here to spur you on and help you as much as possible

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BOOK: The Sleep Revolution: Transforming Your Life, One Night at a Time by Arianna Huffington

BOOK: Baby on Board by Dr Howard Chilton

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030: Why You’re Still a SuperMum, Even When your Kids are Being Brats

When things go wrong, don’t go with them

[Elvis Presley]

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My son hurling a mini quiche at the String Quartet last weekend was not my proudest mummy moment.

Now I know small boys and String Quartets are not good bed fellows, but then it’s not every day your mother-in-law turns 80.

Some things you just don’t want to miss out on.

But does that incident (and the cringe-worthy list of others that preceded it) make me a bad mother (even though it felt like it at the time)?

Heck, no!

I’m real. I’m normal. I’m learning. And I’ll try harder next time.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about what you should be telling yourself when your children are not behaving at their best.

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My challenge for this week is to prepare yourself mentally for the difficult moments that will inevitably arise.  We’ve all had them. It will always happen and will do again, so be prepared! Remember the one thing you can control is that little voice in your head.

Tell me what you think?

Tell me in the comments. How do you feel when your kids are being rat bags? Are you thinking negatively about how other people perceive you? Or are you positively spurring yourself on inside your head? Do you tell yourself this nightmare will be over soon or do you struggle to see light at the end of the tunnel?

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

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028: Kill Bad Habits Dead with these Proven Tricks

Bad habits are like a comfortable bed, easy to get into but hard to get out of

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They say old habits die hard.

They’re right.

They do.

But does that mean to say you’re gonna let bad habits get the better of you?

You’re kidding! A strong-minded mama like you?

No way.

In fact, knowing that replacing bad old habits with shiny fresh new ones will take time and effort, is the essential first mindset tool you need to kill those destructive old habits dead.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about our shared addiction to Jaffa Cakes, and how to kill those naughty bad habits dead.

 

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My challenge for this week is to focus on a bad habit you want to break, or a new one you want to set up and break it up into small, manageable chunks to get you moving in the right direction. And then of course, take that essential first step to breaking it.

 

Please leave a comment:

Tell me in the comments. What habit do you want to break? What new habit will you put in its place?

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

ARTICLE: How to Trick Your Brain to Create a New Healthy Habit

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026: The Incredible Power of Believing you Can Improve

It’s not how good you are. It’s how good you want to be

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My daughter Elizabeth is learning to talk.

She’s two and a half, so the vast world of words lays wide open before her.

I listen to her every day. Desperately trying to communicate, repeating herself again and again in the (often) forlorn attempt to be understood.

But does she ever give up, throw her hands in the air and declare that it’s all too hard?

Of course not. She just keeps on trying. That’s because, like all toddlers, she has a growth mindset.

She’s open to new possibilities, she won’t give up and she’s never afraid to fail.

We can learn so much from our little ones because it’s not how good you are, it’s how good you want to be.

Elizabeth wants to talk. And talk she will.

What do you want to do?

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about the incredible power of believing you can improve.

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This weeks challenge:

My challenge for this week is to think about something that you’ve always wanted to do. Something BIG, and then start to reprogram your mind by tell yourself you can do this.

You don’t have to work out the full picture yet, by take one small but essential first step and you’ll soon start to build momentum.

Please leave a comment:

Tell me in the comments. What can you do to be more open to new possibilities? What’s the big thing that you want to accomplish?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you in any way we can.

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

TED TALK: The power of believing that you can improve with Carol Dweck

PROFILE: Carol Dweck 

WEBSITE: Mindset Works

TONY ROBBINS ARTICLE: Stop your Limiting Beliefs: 10 Empowering Beliefs that will Change your Life

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024: 5 Fantastic Reasons to be Selfish

You can’t pour from an empty cup so fill your cup up and become the foundation of your family

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Don’t be selfish.

Think of others. 

We teach it to our kids all the time. 

But when is being selfish not being selfish? 

When you’re doing something for yourself that actually benefits others. 

Because by finding the time to do something just for you, you’re giving your kids a much happier, more content and more engaged mum. 

By being so-called selfish you’re actually being incredibly smart.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about five fantastic reasons to be selfish.

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This weeks challenge:

My challenge for this week is to book a pocket of time into your schedule to do something just for yourself. It can be anything. A yoga class or a swim. A trip to the coffee shop, just you and a book. A nice long walk to go back to nature. A relaxing massage. A bubble bath with a glass of champagne and an early night.

It doesn’t matter what it is, the important thing is you do it.  Just do something.

And then see how it makes you feel. Has your attitude towards your kids, work, home or husband changed?

Please leave a comment:

Tell me in the comments. What did you do and how did it make you feel? Do you feel like you’re being selfish when you do something for yourself? How will you change your thinking into believing you’re actually being smart by taking some time for yourself?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you in any way we can.

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

ARTICLE: Mom, Stop Worrying About Me: Why Our Mothers Need To Be More Selfish

PROFILE: Iyanla Vanzant

BOOK: The Life-Changing Magic of Not Giving a F**k by Sarah Knight

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022: Brilliant Tactics to Banish Worry

Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength

[Corrie ten Boom]

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As a mum, you have plenty to worry about.

Trouble is, worry doesn’t change anything, and most of the things you worry about never end up happening.

If a problem CAN be solved, why worry about it? Instead use your energy to fix it.

If a problem CAN’T be solved, why worry about it? There’s nothing you can do to stop it. Instead use your energy to deal with it.

Don’t miss the sun that’s shining today worrying about the rain that may come tomorrow.

Worry never serves us. And it doesn’t change anything. Only you can change it.

Have faith in yourself that you can overcome it.

Because you can SuperMum. You can.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about the brilliant tactics you can use to banish worry.

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My challenge for this week is to consider the impact that your worrying has on your children. Do you want them to grow up being scared of their own shadow, or do you want your kids to be strong, resilient and conquer the world?

Look at the things you can control and try to find a solution to make it better, rather than spend precious energy worrying about what may come of it.

Listen to today’s show and we’ll tell you exactly what to do

Please leave a comment:

Tell me in the comments. Do you worry too much? What sort of things do you worry about?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you in any way we can.

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BOOK: Women Who Worry Too Much: How to Stop Worry and Anxiety from Ruining Relationships, Work, and Fun by Holly Hazlitt-Stevens

PROFILE: Tony Robbins

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020: Throw Away the Mummy Guilt

Behind every great kid is a mum who’s pretty sure she’s mucking it up

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Ask your child to tell you about mother’s guilt and they’ll look at you blankly.

“There will be so many times when you feel like you’ve failed, but in the eyes, heart and mind of your child, you are a supermum”

I love this quote by Stephanie Precourt.

Guilt is an emotion that we mums load on to ourselves because we never feel as if we quite live up to the mark.

But if we’re putting guilt on to ourselves, then we have the power to take it away from ourselves.

Bottom line, your child loves you right up to the moon.

And you love them right up to the moon …. and back.

You’re doing a great job. Now you just need to believe it.

In this weeks episode of The Friday Café, Michelle Dawson and I talk about the dreaded mummy guilt and how we can attack it head on.

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So my challenge for this week is to think about something that makes you feel guilty and really start to work out a way to use that guilt to your advantage.

Step 1: What do you feel guilty about? If there’s lots of things, just focus on one at a time

Step 2: Can you either willingly drop the ball with it, or motivate yourself to make a change. That might be a physical change where you do something differently, or a mental change where you reframe how you see the situation.

Remind yourself that there is a solution to absoultely everything and they’ll be a solution here, so don’t give up on yourself.

Listen to today’s show for all the details.

Please leave a comment:

Then tell me in the comments. What makes you feel guilty, and how can you look at that guilt in a different way?

Michelle and I are here to spur you on and help you in any way we can.

Hope you enjoy the show.

Now, Go Conquer Motherhood!

Lisa York x

Show Notes:

BOOK: Mommy Guilt: Learn to Worry Less, Focus on What Matters Most, and Raise Happier Kids by Julie Bort, Aviva Pflock and Devra Renner

SURVEY: Overcoming ‘Mommy Guilt’  by the American Management Association “In a survey of over 1,300 parents – a whopping 96% … reported feeling guilty about some aspect of parenting.”

PROFILE: Dr Robin Smith

BOOK: Carry On, Warrior: The Power of Embracing Your Messy, Beautiful Life by Glennon Doyle Melton

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